Loveless Generation in a Nomad Society

Hello guys. Yeah, some quick food for thought here. Maybe this will be funny, maybe not. Well see.

Anyway, I want to tell you guys a story, about a modern day country, called the US that suffers from something really serious, dating and courtship.

Now, just here me out. Where does a young adult go to mingle and find a partner these days? Is it a Walmartt parking lot? A 10 minute stop for gas? A brief visit to the grocery store? 

Or, maybe more degenerate options like alcoholic downtown drinking, rave concerts with common drugs, random holiday drinking events?

No, the most secure way to find someone to love these days, have been narrowed to three different scenarios. 1. You are able to find a meaningful relationship at an early age, like high school where there is plenty of social interaction. 2. You are able to find a meaningful relationship at a college where there is plenty of social interaction. 3. You are able to find a meaningful relationship at a job.

So, it's no wonder so many now, not just in the US, but to younger generations born into this technological age, develop more of an online presence, rather than help create a real life society. That we live in a time where younger generations have such easier access into mobile technology and social media, it sort of builds a facade to people that what we do online "reflects" our actual standing to make friends in real life. 

Which, has always created an irony to see how people today have better access than before, to be online, and to build more contacts and relationships, that our online profiles become just that, online mailboxes. That in our current society, people aren't so easy to engage with each other in real life, or to commit to outreach, as fast as we are with online discourses and online shopping.

That it's easier to agree or disagree at the whim of a touch, talk smack, than it is to actually call or speak to someone in person, and receive real world consequences. Because, there is some sort of psychology at play between emotion and action. That it's one thing to be mad at someone, but it's another type of psychology that actually goes beyond to have the energy to make a verbal phone call, or to act in real life. 

But going back on topic, this is just a brief explanation about our current technological society, without going into other crazy things like trends, mass hysteria, etc.

This is just me letting you all know that our facades of social media, are just that, in the realm of media. And it's our same old stance in our social gatherings that have become worse because of our lax access into digital interactions and video feedback.

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No, our current problem, in the US at least, is the same old lack of real culture and courtship. That holidays to us are either material events or historical reminders. That we have in a way, given up, our culture largely into the holidays, most notable of spending like in the last 4 months of the year. 

Because, in a way, we have always had this sort of dilemma where we don't really have a proper culture outside of schools and work environments.  That we depend so much to find someone either in our connections in school, or in our long hours living at work because, well we're already at work most of the week, so why not go see if the receptionist wants to start a family?

So, I don't mind being called weird for diving so deeply into speculations, but I have to see the reality around us and note what is hypothetical down. That we have poor social environments outside of school and work, a culture only around holidays rather than months or seasons, and our adding attention to giving up talking to people in real life, for people that are online whom we have never met.

And no, I'm not a huge anti-digital person, I'm just being frank that our real life interactions also matter more. Plus, the growing amount of people now turning away from social media only backs up this theory that too much of being online is a bad thing. 

Well, no duh. Too much of anything is bad, but it's good that people are now realizing that about social media. The next step is to get back in improving our real world interactions, hopefully without the need of mass alcohol, hard drugs, debauchery, and all else that tends to happen during the holidays.

Maybe then people can return to appreciate the simple things that make relationships and courtship meaningful, the time we spend together.

Unlike our current culture of young people trying to romanticize a fake hook up culture relationship, or by the amount of depraved people idolizing streamers licking mircophones. 

So again, I ask. What is better? To mingle with someone you find interesting while you try to strike up a conversation about the price of milk at the store, or an actual place people can hang out and enjoy public environments like arcades, coffee shops, bookstores, I don't know.

Really, I don't want to say the solution is to go back to our pre 2000's obsessions with malls, because that will just lead into a consumerism culture where it will be illegal to hang out if you're not a customer.

But, I'm thinking of something better than parks where homeless sleep. I'm thinking recreational centers that can connect to malls and stores and restaurants, but that don't become malls themselves. Like, some of sort of balance between parks and malls where people don't need a reason to just hang out. 

I am also a gamer, so why not more public arcades where people can see our gamer skills in beautiful 4k? That would surely be cool.

I am also an artist, so why not more places where people perform at respectable public volumes? Doesn't that alone sound better than just going to expensive strip clubs?

Let's focus more on the pg-13 kind of culture, so more people can enjoy each other's company.

I don't know about you guys, but add some chairs or sofas, some food, tvs, art and recreational sports, and you'll easily have a place that can attract more family people. Why should our entertainments of this scale be limited to only paid fairs and private parks?

All you need to do is build an environment that reflects calm and safe public recreations. People will learn to adapt. You give too much loud or blinding entertainment, people will also reflect that. You leave areas for trash and pollution and no welcoming lights at night, no cameras, no security, then except an evening stabbing and a place to sell drugs.

In the end, all this is pointing towards is a call to rethink how we build our societies, our layouts in building parking lots, roads, malls, cheap parks as easy excuses to not build social environments for our culture. More importantly, to develop social unity.

Just some food for thought.